Monthly Archives: October 2014
Q. Did The Supreme Court Give Homosexuals Freedom To Violate Others’ Constitutional Rights?
A. No, but some people obviously believe that.
I’m not sure if any of you have seen this on the news, but if you even happen to hop on any news site or television station for 5 minutes then you’ve probably seen an article involving Houston’s openly gay mayor, Annise Parker, and her recent stunt. In a clear violation of 1st Amendment rights, she has subpoenaed local church pastors’ sermons on homosexuality and any remarks they’ve made with regard to homosexuality.
Before I go any further, let me tell you what this post is not. This is NOT some post about homosexuality. It is NOT about gay rights. It is NOT about a religious stance on an issue. So don’t flip out and go on some tangent on judging, intolerance, Christianity, etc. What this post IS about is an attack on Christians and an attack on the Constitution of the United States of America AND the fact that Annise Parker has clearly lost her mind.
When I first saw this article pop up on my newsfeed, I laughed. Then I realized it wasn’t a joke when I began to read it. Ever since the Supreme Court’s decision to not make a decision and to take a hands-off approach to “same-sex marriage” bans, the outrageous liberal attacks have begun. Parker’s is only one of many. Our constitutional rights are being stripped away more and more every day. What’s going on in the States is eerily similar to what has been transpiring in Canada the last several years. For those of you that don’t know, Canada has criminalized free speech as “hate speech” to suppress more traditional and Christian values. It’s absolutely insane!
Get ready for this… TODAY I just read a report that the city of Coeur d’Alene, Idaho is threatening a Christian couple to marry same-sex couples in their chapel or face 180 days of jail time and a $1,000 fine for each day they refuse to marry a same-sex couple. Don’t believe me? Read for yourself: (City threatens to arrest ministers who refuse to perform same-sex weddings)
It doesn’t matter which side of the fence you are on regarding gay rights. What does matter is if you even want rights anymore. We have seen attacks to the 2nd Amendment by this administration and now we are seeing widespread attacks on the 1st Amendment. If we do not have leaders speaking out against these attacks then we are going to allow the erosion of our constitutional rights. If we sit back and do nothing, we will succumb to a society that centers around oppressing Christians and Christian values.
Side note: I do find it interestingly convenient how gay-rights activists will blast a conservative with intolerance comments when it suits them, then when the situation is flipped intolerance is the last thing on their mind. We are asked by activists to not be intolerant of individual’s sexual preferences and their values. Why then must they not be tolerant of those that have opposing values?
Tip of the day… we don’t have to “tolerate” things that are good. We don’t eat a good meal or watch a good movie and tell our friends, “I tolerated it.” Keep that in mind next time someone tells you that you’re intolerant.
It could be the shift in our thinking these days or maybe it was always like this. Taking responsibility seems to be less and less of an American trait among adults and, therefore, it will be a less likely trait of our children. As ashamed as I am to admit this, it took me over 30 years to begin to accept responsibility for my actions and for the situations I was at in life. When I did, EVERYTHING CHANGED.
When the switch got flipped for me, I was reading a book a friend suggested: The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success and Happiness by Jeff Olson. A week before I began the book, I had just encountered what felt like a devastating blow to my business. My earnings dropped over $3,000 in just two weeks. Things were not going as I had planned. I fell far shy of the goals I had set for myself. All the time and effort I had poured into my business looked as if it had not paid off and I felt like I lost control of where I was going. So I did what most people would do… I blamed everyone except for myself. I starting pointing the finger and saying, “this person didn’t do what they were supposed to do and this person didn’t do that, etc.” To me, there were a bunch of people at fault and none were the person in the mirror.
You know when you lie about something long enough, you start to believe it? Well, it works the same way when you’re blaming others long enough. The more you blame others, the easier it becomes and the more you believe it yourself. You will actually start believing it’s their fault. The problem with that is, it takes the focus off of the one person that can change the circumstances… YOU. The only person you can control is you. You can’t control other people’s actions.
I prayed for things to get back on track. I expected God to just make it easy for me and reward me for the work I had already done. Well, He answered my prayers in a very clever way. He decided to answer them by forcing me to grow personally. He used the book I mentioned above. I received many great messages from that book, but if I read the book and only got this one thing out of it, it was worth the entire read. The one thing was a quote by John Burroughs that changed my life and it came right when I needed it. It read, “A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.” I posted it at the beginning of this post and now I’ll post it again below. It’s that important.
That quote hit my like a ton of bricks in the face. The entire week before reading that quote I had blamed everyone else for what was happening with MY business. In fact, my entire life before reading that quote I had blamed others for my circumstances. I blamed student loan companies for requiring such high payments. I blamed my law school for raising prices after I had already been attending. I did the same with my undergraduate college. I blamed my job for not paying me enough and putting me in a tough situation financially. No one had been given a raise in over 5 years because my employer was near broke and didn’t know how to manage money and because of that, I paid for it… literally.
My entire life was a huge blame game until I read that quote. It changed everything for me. It’s so simple that most people won’t even see the power in its truth. Here’s the simple breakdown: I have failed many times… MANY times. You learn through failure. It’s a part of life. You show me someone who has never failed and I will show you someone who has never been successful. You reach success through failing. Although I have failed many times, I am NOT a failure. I will never be one and, therefore, I will never blame somebody else for my circumstances.
I look at blaming as a form of whining now. Whenever I see someone post on social media or hear them complain about their jobs, how much debt their in, their horrible co-workers, their family, etc. I only see how much they are whining and that their focus is on everything except what it needs to be on to change things… themselves.
HERE’S THE GOOD NEWS
No matter where you come from, no matter what situation you are in, no matter how bad of a hand you feel that life has dealt you, only you can do something about it. The first time I heard a friend say that, the quote above popped in my head. He’s was right. You have too much debt? You hate your job? You don’t like hanging around co-workers? Instead of complaining about it… recognize that IT IS YOUR FAULT. The good news? Well, YOU can do something about it. That’s right… YOU can and only you can. It’s a decision. That’s what it boils down to; a simple decision. You either are or you’re not going to take responsibility for your circumstances.
I realized that no one forced me to take out over $200,000 of student loans. I made that choice. I realize that no one forced me to take my current job. I chose to take the job. I realized that no one was forcing me to interact with co-workers and friends/acquaintances that I’m not too fond of. I was choosing to do so.
Here’s what happened to me when I took full responsibility for my circumstances. I bounced back. Not only did my business get back to where it was, but it far surpassed it. Soon I was earning in two weeks what I was previously earning in one month. Not only that, I was helping other people do the same. I eliminated over $100,000 of student loan and credit card debt in under two years. My wife and I paid for our wedding in cash. We more than replaced my salary in under a year’s time and we have given ourselves the opportunity for complete time freedom for the rest of our lives. It was as simple as making a decision to turn the finger around and point it at myself. It was as simple as that.
There’s a glaring truth in the book and I’ve posted it below. We are on one of two paths in life. Which one are you on?
“If you want to measure where you are, if you want to know whether you’re on the success curve or on the failure curve, or if you want to assess anyone else and determine which curve they’re on, here’s how. There is one attitude, one state of mind, which overwhelmingly predominates either side of the curve. The predominant state of mind displayed by those people on the failure curve is blame. The predominant state of mind displayed by those people on the success curve is responsibility.” – The Slight Edge
Here are two pages from the book that address these life paths. I suggest reading the ENTIRE pages (no need to pay attention to the highlighting).
The Top 8 Reasons Why AdvoCare Wasn’t For Me Became the Top 8 Reasons Why It Is
1. I DIDN’T HAVE THE TIME:
I was working 18 hours a day. I got up at 4:00 a.m. to drive to coach CrossFit. I then practiced law from 8:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m. and then went straight back to the gym. I didn’t finish coaching, cleaning up, and programming for the next day’s workouts until 10:00 p.m., which left me 6 hours to sleep (if I was lucky). I was exhausted and my time was devoted to earning extra income to get out of debt. Then I stepped back and looked at my day. I drove 25 minutes to and from the gym twice each day. That was nearly two hours of driving time. I also had an hour lunch break Monday through Friday and didn’t do too much on the weekends. I had a lot more time than I thought when I really evaluated my schedule and the best part was that I could put as little or as much time into it as I wanted. So I began spending 4-6 hours total per week for the first couple months and quickly replaced what I was earning from the gym with AdvoCare.
2. THE MARKET IS SATURATED:
I told myself that since AdvoCare had been around for 20 years at that time, surely everyone else was already “doing” AdvoCare and I would be starting too late. If I started years ago before the “market got saturated” then I would’ve had a chance. That’s a reason I hear from people all the time and I felt the same way. What I found out is that I have A TON of family and friends that have never heard of AdvoCare before, much less tried any of the products. There is a HUGE organization 10 minutes away from us and so many people in Montgomery didn’t even know what AdvoCare was when I spoke with them. I was dead wrong and I’m glad I was.
3. IF I WOULD’VE STARTED YEARS AGO I MAY HAVE BEEN SUCCESSFUL, BUT NOT NOW:
This one kind of goes hand in hand with the previous one. I kept telling myself that I was starting too late and almost talked myself out of starting at all. Of course, the best time to start is yesterday… the next best time to start is now. I had to ask myself, “what if I started and I only made a few hundred dollars?” Well, that’s a few hundred dollars I didn’t have before I started and each day I waited to get started was ANOTHER day that I was missing out on earning financial freedom.
4. I’M NOT GOOD AT SALES:
I’m no salesman. I don’t like selling anything and I don’t like pushing products on people. I thought that’s what I had to do. Then someone helped me see what we really do here. We don’t look at ourselves as product sellers. We look at ourselves as problem solvers. The only way I knew how to help people solve their problems was to talk with them to find out what their problems were. I began to find out that a lot of my friends needed more energy, wanted to lose weight, wanted better health and wellness, and more than anything I found that I had a bunch of friends that needed extra income. Whether it was because they had a tremendous amount of debt, wanted to replace a spouses salary so they didn’t have to drop their kids off at a daycare and could stay home to raise their kids themselves, or be able to not stress over bills at the end of the month… they need help.
5. I DIDN’T HAVE MONEY TO GET STARTED:
My credit cards were just about maxed out and I owed over $200,000 in student loan debt. I was broke; however, that reason why I couldn’t was a reason why I should. I needed the income and it was only $79 for a 20% discount on products I would use anyway, I would receive my own website with zero maintenance to do, I would be given the ability to earn income two ways, and AdvoCare would send me $58 in retail products just for enrolling with zero obligations. It’s much like a Sam’s Club or Costco membership, but I received much more!
6. I DIDN’T WANT TO HAVE ANY MONTHLY FINANCIAL OBLIGATIONS:
I didn’t want any monthly sales minimums to keep my discount, I didn’t want auto-ships, I didn’t want to be forced to buy a certain amount of products, and I didn’t want my credit card to get charged monthly fees. Well, I found out that I could enroll as a distributor (wholesale customer) and have zero further obligations AND earn income. What did I have to lose? Nothing. I found out that there are zero mandatory auto-ships and that I didn’t have to purchase a certain amount of products each month to keep my discount. I could literally enroll and never purchase another thing and incur no further costs.
7. I DIDN’T HAVE ANY WEIGHT TO LOSE:
I thought AdvoCare was all about weight loss. Then I realized they have a Performance Elite and Active line, which endorsers like Drew Brees and Rich Froning, Jr. use. I also didn’t realize that there is an income opportunity and that I could help people earn extra income as well. When I sat back and thought of everyone I knew that could use an extra $500-1,000 a month, I actually couldn’t think of anyone who couldn’t use that extra income.
8. MY FRIENDS WILL THINK I’M DOING “ONE OF THOSE THINGS”:
The thought of “what would my friends think if I did this?” actually crossed my mind. Well, I’m glad I’ve never been one to buckle under peer pressure because my friends let me know exactly what they thought. Their not-so supporting responses were either, “good luck with that,” “REALLY?,” or “you’re doing one of those things?” HERE IS WHY I’m glad I didn’t listen to them: Because I didn’t listen to many of my friends…
I saw the vision to be debt-free and so far I’ve NOW eliminated over $106,000 of student loan and credit card debt.
I saw the vision to be able to provide an opportunity for my future wife to not have to get a job if she didn’t want to, which would allow her to raise our children instead of dropping them off at a daycare for someone else to raise them. NOW I am married and my wife never has to go get a job and as we await our first child to be born in 5 months, upon on our child’s birth my wife has the option (which she is gladly taking) to stay at home to raise our child.
I saw the vision not to go into any further debt at all and when my wife and I chose to get married, we PAID FOR OUR WEDDING IN CASH! Most couples go into further debt to have the size and type of wedding we did, but not us!
Among MANY other reasons why I’m glad I didn’t listen to them is that fact that I met my wife through AdvoCare. That’s been the best reason of all! Because of the amazing relationships we made through AdvoCare, we were introduced and well, you know the story.
I stepped back and looked at my life from a 30,000 foot view and saw that if I didn’t DO SOMETHING that I was going to be stuck in the never ending cycle of paying my minimum student loan payments and struggling financially the rest of my life.
“If nothing changes, nothing changes.”
You may have caught yourself saying, “Hey! That’s me! I’ve said the same things.” Well, if that is you too then I highly encourage you to get out of your own way and make a brighter future for your family. Whether it’s through letting us help you have success with AdvoCare or doing something completely different, we want you to succeed and get out of the rut that the majority of Americans are in today.