It’s been a very long time since I have written you and before I tell you why this will be a better Thanksgiving, I have to update you on all your milestones. I have been keeping myself busy so that you can have an even better Thanksgiving this year than you did last year. The last time I wrote you was just after your first Christmas and A LOT has changed since then. Sorry it has been so long. You’ve been RUNNING everywhere and have picked up a ton of words such as shoes (“ishes” as you like to call them), Jesus, Momma, Papa, Nana, bar, ball, bottle, cookie, cheese, chicken, brother (“bruba”), no, woof, puppy, and many more. You also know where your hair, eyes, nose, toes, ears, mouth, belly button, and hands are! You are so smart!!!
You’ve been climbing on EVERYTHING and love being around your brother. In fact, you can’t even walk by him without hugging him and kissing him on the head. It’s one of the sweetest things we’ve ever seen. He smiles more for you than he does for anyone and yesterday he just made his first real laugh. He’s super happy in general, but by far the happiest when he’s around you.
So let me tell you why this Thanksgiving will be different. A few years ago, before you were even born, I knew that I wanted to give your mom the opportunity to be home with you all the time. I knew that before I even knew your mom. So I removed all excuses and went to work so that when I met your mom she could have that opportunity. I was able to make that happen in a short amount of time and I thought that if I could accomplish that goal then all would be good; however, after you were born something changed. I still wanted your mom home with you, but that wasn’t going to be good enough for my little girl. You deserved much more than to just have your mom home with you.
Every day as I would leave to go to my job I would kiss you goodbye probably 50 times and you would smile. Then when you could stand up you would stand in the window of the door crying and screaming “Daddy!” every day as I left. It broke my heart to leave you every day. There were many mornings when I had to fight back tears backing out of the driveway and some mornings when I lost that fight. Then throughout the day I would watch you grow up through pictures or videos that your mom would send me while I was at work and it would tear me up even more. I would have the hour after I got home from work to spend with you and the majority of that was feeding you, bathing you, and then putting you to bed. It wasn’t enough for you and it wasn’t enough for me.
Then when your brother was born I took 12 weeks off of work and it hit me. Why not just always be home with your mom and the two of you? After talking it over with your mom we have decided that we would both be home to raise you and your brother and that is why this Thanksgiving will be better than the last. So instead of just enjoying the holiday weekend and then going back to a job on Monday only to see you cry in the doorway, I will wake up Monday to get you out of bed, hug you, kiss you, feed you breakfast, take you to the park or even chase you around the house because I can. I no longer have anyone telling me that I have to come into work from 8:00 to 5:00. I no longer have to ask off for vacation to take you to fun trips around the country. I have fired the boss and given up the 40 hour work week so that now we can always be on vacation my little love! We no longer live life on someone else’s terms. We live life on our own terms. Happy Thanksgiving Sweetheart!
I love you,
When I share an incredible opportunity with people the most common objection I hear is, “I don’t have time.” I said the same thing when someone introduced the same opportunity to me 3 1/2 years ago. At that point in my life I was working 18 hours a day (4:00 a.m. to 10:00 p.m.). I “didn’t have time” for anything else. The truth is, you’ll never “find” time to do anything, but you can always “make” time for things that matter. People make time to watch their favorite t.v. shows, they make time to go out with friends, they make time to go get a few drinks, they make time to fool around on social media for hours throughout the day, etc. There are 24 hours in the day. You’re sleeping only 6-8 of them. Make the time to do things that matter. If I didn’t make time to do things that mattered 3 1/2 years ago then our family would be burdened with daycare costs, hardly ever get to see our child, we would have an unreal amount of debt, and be living with financial stress month after month. I know that life sounds familiar to the majority of Americans and may even be considered “normal” by today’s standards. Instead, my wife has the opportunity to raise our child, we’ve eliminated over $170,000 of debt, and we don’t stress when the bills come around every month or when we have a “surprise cost” when something breaks. Our goal is to make the “normal” type of life a rarity or non-existent for as many people as possible. #thankyouadvocare #whowantstobenormal #maketime
You had your first beach trip! It was the AdvoCare Kids on The Coast Trip and it was a blast! I’m sorry that you didn’t get to actually go ON the beach because of how hot it was outside, but at least you got to hangout in the cabana at the pool. The ceiling fan in the cabana was a nice touch. We were so blessed to spend time with 249 other families that we love and the best part about it was that we didn’t have to spend anything! That’s right, it was FREE! We’ll have to pay for Disney World though when we go, but that trip will mostly be for your mom. She’s a Disney fanatic. I’m sure you know that though since she plays Disney tunes for you every day. I’m sorry about that.
It was a 5 hour trip total, but we broke it up into two 2 1/2 hour trips since we got to stop at Nonnie and Papa’s for a weekend. You slept the entire trip there and then to Destin only waking up once to go potty. I still can’t believe it. You are an awesome traveler!
Out of the 250 families on the trip, there were over 300 kids and out of the 300+ kids on the trip, you had to be the most famous. Everyone loves you little angel. Not that you needed any help looking cute, but your bathing suit only added to your cuteness factor. Oh, and that flower hat… adorable! Here’s a pic of you climbing all over mom under the cabana and another when you were pretending to be shy:
You even made room for a snow cone… well, it was snow cone unflavored ice. You appeared to like it though.
While on the trip we had a chance to hangout with some pretty famous people. We got to see Trevor Bayne who drives the AdvoCare #6 car. I hope to God that you are never in a car that is even possible to go as fast as he drives. 🙂 He ate lunch with everyone and then played beach volleyball with us.
We also spent a good bit of time with one of our dear friends, Ron Reynolds. One day I’ll be able to explain to you how much this man has changed our lives and your future. He is the reason your mom and I have eliminated over $141,000 of debt in under 2 1/2 years. Here’s a picture of you with Ron. You blinked when I took the picture. 😉
One of our favorite parts of the trip was the pajama party movie night where we watched “Despicable Me.” Although that movie is pretty good, I think the best part was hanging out with you and mom in our pajamas.
Don’t worry that you slept through most of this trip because there will be many more trips like this my little one. You are a blessing to us and to everyone that knows you. Your smiles are contagious and your laughs are even more so. We love you so much and cannot wait until our next trip with you. Until then, there will be many days of lounging around the house in your little lounger with your mom playing Disney music and me reading you books.
Love you sweet angel,
P.S. Thank you for not pooping in the car when we changed you. I REALLY appreciate that.
Over the past 2 1/2 years, I have made multiple posts on various social media sites regarding how much debt I’ve eliminated and the other day I made another one. I know how unbelievable it is for someone to eliminate over $137,000 of debt because honestly it’s hard to believe it myself. The higher the number goes, the more unbelievable it becomes, to others AND myself. I think the reason is because most people don’t know it’s possible to become debt free. For most people, by the time they pay off or come close to paying off their car, they’re having to take out a loan for another one, take out a second mortgage on their home, secure a mortgage on a new home, while still paying off credit cards and student loans among many other creditors.
So because I realize most people can’t believe it, I decided to show everyone just how true it is. I scanned in letters from financial institutions and took screenshots from credit card accounts (THANK GOD our credit card debt is GONE!) A few things that aren’t shown here are the over $7,000 of a veterinary bill I had from when Jackson went to the vet hospital and tried to die on me, hundreds of dollars in outstanding medical bills from my knee surgery, and payments made on my Jeep.
Before you say… “how did this guy have so much debt!?” I’ll tell you. When you go to private undergrad and private law school, the student loans add up fast. Then when I had to start paying them back and the minimum payments consumed a large majority of my paycheck every month, I felt like I had no other option at the time except to use a credit card just to put food on my table and gas in my car. So that’s how… not to mention we were not allowed to work my first year of law school.
I understand that not everyone has had as much debt as I did, even for those that own a home. I also understand that earning extra income to be able to do what I’m about to show you below may not be for everyone… BUT what if it is for you?
Let’s start with this personal bank loan:
While going through some mail I found this letter regarding paying the balance of my personal loan IN FULL! WHAT WHAT!!!? #refreshing Thanks “June Pridmore” and yes, I bet you do “hope to have the opportunity to serve me again in the future.” Thanks but no thanks sista!
Next, I have a Discover student loan that I eliminated back in early 2014 before our wedding. That’s right, PAYMENT IN FULL!
Citibank received the same treatment from me: less interest for them! Sorry, but not sorry!
Here was the largest credit card I had to eliminate. My Discover card was out of control and by far had the highest balance out of all of my cards. Checkout that $0.00 balance! Looks pretty sweet, huh!? We also used a bunch of that “Cash back bonus” to go toward our debt. 😉
And here was Mariah’s Discover card that we eliminated right after we returned from our honeymoon to Greenbrier. Again… $0.00 balance and it’ll stay like that. Just about emptied that cash back balance on this one too.
Next we have my Chase credit card. This was the second credit card I had because I signed up for a free t-shirt or a Hungry Howie’s pizza or something like that on my college campus. By the way, there are now laws restricting these credit card vultures that prey on very impressionable college kids from doing that anymore. Current balance on this one? You guessed it… ZERO!
Next we have my very first credit card secured in the same manner as the one above. What can I say? Here I am, a freshman in college with basically no limits except for things that required money. Credit cards helped me erase that limit too. Glad that I got that one at $0.00 balance.
This was a fun one to eliminate. Not only did I eliminate the balance, but I was left with thousands of miles that I could cash in for gift cards or free flights. 🙂 That’s all fine and dandy, but I’d rather pay for my flights instead of going into massive debt to have them awarded to me.
NOW HERE COMES THE DECISION POINT:
If you have significant or even minimal debt from a mortgage, car payment, credit cards, student loans, personal loans, etc. – what you just saw above can be YOU! It’s not magic. It’s not luck. All it took was an incredible opportunity and a willingness to be completely free of debt! Remember, “opportunity does not make appointments. You have to be ready when it arrives.” I have my hands on the most incredible opportunity I’ve ever seen. Do you?
There are many things in life that I don’t understand. One of those things is watching people live life within a revolving door and them be okay with it. You know, the person that gets up every morning to get dressed in clothes that they buy for work, drive through traffic in a car that they are still paying for, in order to get or keep a job that they need so they can pay for the clothes, car and the house that they leave empty all day in order to afford to live in it. You know that person… it’s YOU!
The reason it’s hard for me to understand is because I cannot stand living in that revolving door so it’s nearly impossible for me to understand anyone being okay with that. So I started thinking, if I can’t imagine anyone actually being okay with that lifestyle then conversely most people would be okay with being multi-millionaires and living life the way they wanted to instead of on someone else’s terms. So I decided to ask my friends if they would be willing to break the cycle of going to their job every morning to work all day to pay for all of their indebtedness and have that time stripped from their family, but I asked it in a semi-coded way.
I posted a series of questions on my Facebook wall recently titled “The Multi-Million Dollar Questions” and received exactly the response I thought I would receive. The series of questions basically asked, and I’m paraphrasing, if the reader would like to be a multi-millionaire. There is another reason why I asked those questions, which I would be happy to discuss with inquiring minds, but first I’d like for you to read the questions carefully and answer them for yourself. I would also love to read some of your additional comments. I’m going to do a follow up post with the answer totals. So to make sure that you don’t miss it, SUBSCRIBE on the right.
QUESTION 1: If a multi-millionaire told you his secret to success was by doing only THREE simple things consistently and that if you did those three things that you could be a multi-millionaire too, would you do them?
Caveat: The three things do not include anything immoral or that would jeopardize your faith, family, friends, health or career.
QUESTION 2: The multi-millionaire tells you that it may take some time to earn several millions of dollars a year, but the more you do those THREE things the better you get at them, which means the better your results and the faster you can become a multi-millionaire. Would you do those THREE things as often as possible?
QUESTION 3: The multi-millionaire tells you that there are a few other things that have helped him get to where he is, but those things are not exclusive of the THREE things he has already mentioned. In fact, he tells you that you could become a multi-millionaire without the extra few other things that have led to his success and by only doing the THREE things he has already mentioned. He tells you; however, that if you did the few other things, you can achieve his monetary status even quicker and that you can sustain that monetary status for your lifetime. Would you do the few extra things with the same caveat as above?
QUESTION 4: What if I told you that I can tell you what those THREE things are? Would you be interested?
The Top 8 Reasons Why AdvoCare Wasn’t For Me Became the Top 8 Reasons Why It Is
1. I DIDN’T HAVE THE TIME:
I was working 18 hours a day. I got up at 4:00 a.m. to drive to coach CrossFit. I then practiced law from 8:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m. and then went straight back to the gym. I didn’t finish coaching, cleaning up, and programming for the next day’s workouts until 10:00 p.m., which left me 6 hours to sleep (if I was lucky). I was exhausted and my time was devoted to earning extra income to get out of debt. Then I stepped back and looked at my day. I drove 25 minutes to and from the gym twice each day. That was nearly two hours of driving time. I also had an hour lunch break Monday through Friday and didn’t do too much on the weekends. I had a lot more time than I thought when I really evaluated my schedule and the best part was that I could put as little or as much time into it as I wanted. So I began spending 4-6 hours total per week for the first couple months and quickly replaced what I was earning from the gym with AdvoCare.
2. THE MARKET IS SATURATED:
I told myself that since AdvoCare had been around for 20 years at that time, surely everyone else was already “doing” AdvoCare and I would be starting too late. If I started years ago before the “market got saturated” then I would’ve had a chance. That’s a reason I hear from people all the time and I felt the same way. What I found out is that I have A TON of family and friends that have never heard of AdvoCare before, much less tried any of the products. There is a HUGE organization 10 minutes away from us and so many people in Montgomery didn’t even know what AdvoCare was when I spoke with them. I was dead wrong and I’m glad I was.
3. IF I WOULD’VE STARTED YEARS AGO I MAY HAVE BEEN SUCCESSFUL, BUT NOT NOW:
This one kind of goes hand in hand with the previous one. I kept telling myself that I was starting too late and almost talked myself out of starting at all. Of course, the best time to start is yesterday… the next best time to start is now. I had to ask myself, “what if I started and I only made a few hundred dollars?” Well, that’s a few hundred dollars I didn’t have before I started and each day I waited to get started was ANOTHER day that I was missing out on earning financial freedom.
4. I’M NOT GOOD AT SALES:
I’m no salesman. I don’t like selling anything and I don’t like pushing products on people. I thought that’s what I had to do. Then someone helped me see what we really do here. We don’t look at ourselves as product sellers. We look at ourselves as problem solvers. The only way I knew how to help people solve their problems was to talk with them to find out what their problems were. I began to find out that a lot of my friends needed more energy, wanted to lose weight, wanted better health and wellness, and more than anything I found that I had a bunch of friends that needed extra income. Whether it was because they had a tremendous amount of debt, wanted to replace a spouses salary so they didn’t have to drop their kids off at a daycare and could stay home to raise their kids themselves, or be able to not stress over bills at the end of the month… they need help.
5. I DIDN’T HAVE MONEY TO GET STARTED:
My credit cards were just about maxed out and I owed over $200,000 in student loan debt. I was broke; however, that reason why I couldn’t was a reason why I should. I needed the income and it was only $79 for a 20% discount on products I would use anyway, I would receive my own website with zero maintenance to do, I would be given the ability to earn income two ways, and AdvoCare would send me $58 in retail products just for enrolling with zero obligations. It’s much like a Sam’s Club or Costco membership, but I received much more!
6. I DIDN’T WANT TO HAVE ANY MONTHLY FINANCIAL OBLIGATIONS:
I didn’t want any monthly sales minimums to keep my discount, I didn’t want auto-ships, I didn’t want to be forced to buy a certain amount of products, and I didn’t want my credit card to get charged monthly fees. Well, I found out that I could enroll as a distributor (wholesale customer) and have zero further obligations AND earn income. What did I have to lose? Nothing. I found out that there are zero mandatory auto-ships and that I didn’t have to purchase a certain amount of products each month to keep my discount. I could literally enroll and never purchase another thing and incur no further costs.
7. I DIDN’T HAVE ANY WEIGHT TO LOSE:
I thought AdvoCare was all about weight loss. Then I realized they have a Performance Elite and Active line, which endorsers like Drew Brees and Rich Froning, Jr. use. I also didn’t realize that there is an income opportunity and that I could help people earn extra income as well. When I sat back and thought of everyone I knew that could use an extra $500-1,000 a month, I actually couldn’t think of anyone who couldn’t use that extra income.
8. MY FRIENDS WILL THINK I’M DOING “ONE OF THOSE THINGS”:
The thought of “what would my friends think if I did this?” actually crossed my mind. Well, I’m glad I’ve never been one to buckle under peer pressure because my friends let me know exactly what they thought. Their not-so supporting responses were either, “good luck with that,” “REALLY?,” or “you’re doing one of those things?” HERE IS WHY I’m glad I didn’t listen to them: Because I didn’t listen to many of my friends…
I saw the vision to be debt-free and so far I’ve NOW eliminated over $106,000 of student loan and credit card debt.
I saw the vision to be able to provide an opportunity for my future wife to not have to get a job if she didn’t want to, which would allow her to raise our children instead of dropping them off at a daycare for someone else to raise them. NOW I am married and my wife never has to go get a job and as we await our first child to be born in 5 months, upon on our child’s birth my wife has the option (which she is gladly taking) to stay at home to raise our child.
I saw the vision not to go into any further debt at all and when my wife and I chose to get married, we PAID FOR OUR WEDDING IN CASH! Most couples go into further debt to have the size and type of wedding we did, but not us!
Among MANY other reasons why I’m glad I didn’t listen to them is that fact that I met my wife through AdvoCare. That’s been the best reason of all! Because of the amazing relationships we made through AdvoCare, we were introduced and well, you know the story.
I stepped back and looked at my life from a 30,000 foot view and saw that if I didn’t DO SOMETHING that I was going to be stuck in the never ending cycle of paying my minimum student loan payments and struggling financially the rest of my life.
“If nothing changes, nothing changes.”
You may have caught yourself saying, “Hey! That’s me! I’ve said the same things.” Well, if that is you too then I highly encourage you to get out of your own way and make a brighter future for your family. Whether it’s through letting us help you have success with AdvoCare or doing something completely different, we want you to succeed and get out of the rut that the majority of Americans are in today.